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|What's up Doc?|
Thanks for your articles. They are great!
My question is: Why is the advice given by the other relationship
experts so often different from yours? And how come there is such a
shortage of advice in general for men?
We are very fortunate to have you!
Sam - who is pondering why
You are right: the other love doctors’ advice is different from mine -
in fact, it is usually the opposite of mine. The chances of getting
useful information from Joyce Brothers, Dear Abby or her sister are
about as good as Saddam Hussein making up with Israel.
The weakness in the other love doctors’ advice lies in their research
methods. When conducting surveys, they ask women: “What do you look for
in a man?” Their question presupposes that what a woman says she wants
in a man is the same as what she ends up with. Is this a correct
assumption? You nice guys out there who ever lost a girl to a biker
with a bone through his nose already know the answer to this.
When given love questionnaires, women list “sensitivity” and “caring”
as the most important male qualities, but they don’t mention looks or
money – even though they are equally important to them. Why this
omission? Because women want to believe that they are big supporters of
“fairness” and they would give every guy carrying a bouquet of roses a
chance. The reality is: they are only saying what’s politically
correct. The so-called love experts make the mistake of taking women’s
answers at face value.
How could these trained experts have overlooked the possibility that
women might only be telling them what they want to hear? Are they
afraid of second-guessing women and appearing sexist? Whatever the
reason, one thing is certain: when men follow the experts’ advice, they
Thanks to the other love doctors, men have all but given up on
understanding women. After enduring constant beatings in the dating
world, they often (wrongly) conclude: “Women are illogical and
inconsistent by nature – why else would they not follow their own wish
lists?” At this point, men should doubt the credentials of the noted
love authorities, but sadly, these men doubt themselves instead.
Enter The “System.” In 1965, I wanted to answer the question “What does
a woman want?” once and for all, so I started interviewing women. When
I did so, I never took the first answer I got; instead I would probe
like an Internal Affairs guy looking for dirty cops. Whenever a woman
gave me a stock answer, I would smile politely, then dig deeper,
tossing out follow-up questions like Columbo. I did this until I
finally came up with the best question possible: “Describe the man you
actually stayed with.” This was how The “System” was born.
Investigating successful relationships, not wishes – what a concept!
Unbelievable as it may sound, this is what those trained experts
missed. I, Doc Love - who got a D in college Psychology - turned out to
be the true scientist simply by asking the right question. I became the
first (and to this day, the only) love doctor to actually study women’s
choices - not their words - and develop a system based on these facts.
That’s how I received the distinction “The First Man in 6000 Years to
Nowadays, men need my tactics more than ever. With so many men giving
up on advice, only women populate the relationship aisles of the
bookstores. Imagine: women - who already understand men - are the ones
buying advice books while the people who need help the most – the men –
are getting their hearts stomped on! In the Battle of the Sexes, this
is not what I would call a fair fight!
The male ego contributes to the shortage of love advice by making men
reluctant to seek coaching. Many men are afraid that admitting any
ignorance about affairs of the heart will make them appear weak to
other people - especially, to their male buddies.
Male silence in the marketplace of love advice - coupled with Feminist
intimidation – also prevents T.V. and radio Program Directors from
airing any love programs that genuinely benefit men. Their rationale:
if men aren’t buying advice books, why should we hire someone to help
But in spite of this gloom, there is hope for men. The recent success
of men’s magazines such as Maxim and Stuff prove that targeting a male
market is a lucrative proposition. Even though these magazines deal
mostly with such burning issues as how to choose a beer or what is
Heidi Klum’s bra size, it shows that things are changing.
The success of my own column is further proof that the trend of male
apathy toward love advice is reversing - I’ve gotten hundreds of
letters like Sam’s that show there is a real need in this world for
quality men’s advice. I intend to fulfill that need by shouting on the
rooftops about the power of The “System.” Amen.
E-mail me at email@example.com with your love challenges. All will be answered, but because of space, only letters of general interest will be printed. To find out more about The “System” visit me at: www.doclove.com
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another?”
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in
his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do
you stay with one man versus another?"
Guys, e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org
with your love challenges. All will be answered, but because of space, only
letters of general interest will be printed. To find out more about The
"System" visit me at: www.doclove.com or
(800) 404-2644. Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who
coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of
women, "Why do you stay with one man versus another?"
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