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|So, you had an interesting night last night. You were out with the
boys, hung around, visited a few places of popularity, met some girls
and even got a few phone numbers and email addresses. So, what’s your
I’m glad that you asked.
If you want to be sure to increase your score factor, you don’t want to
come across as needy or freaky. You want to be the normal guy that
women will find interesting.
And with that in mind, I’m going to tell you what to do. You probably
already know what not to do, since you’re still single and alone.
Let’s say that it was Friday night that you met the girl that gave you
her phone number (email addresses are handled differently).
You are going to wait 4 days before calling her. Tuesday will be your
day. On that day you can call her and ask her if she wants to meet you
for a quick coffee. Nothing big, no event happening or anything like
that, just a simple coffee date. If she says that she’s busy, then
you’ll ask her if she’s running some errands. You have errands to do as
well, grocery shopping, dropping off laundry, looking for some new
clothes. If you can join her as she is out and about running her
errands, you’ll be able to spend some real quality time talking with
her, finding out more about her than would be possible on your next two
dates if you had just invited her out for dinner, which we don’t
suggest you do this soon.
Your goal, in increasing your score factor, is not only to get phone
numbers and email addresses from the women that you are interested in
getting to know better, but actually getting to know them better before
you commit to an exclusive relationship.
Increasing your score factor requires that you follow the right
guidelines during the initial meeting and dating phases. These are:
1. Face it, first impressions are what attraction is
based on and you don’t want to screw with the process of attraction.
So, in order to get the information you seek from the lady of your
choice, you’ll approach her, chat her up quickly with a funny remark or
two, get her number and exit. Once you have her phone number or email
address, you want to get back to where you came from. Sticking around,
in a crowded place, will only lead to her seeing too much of you in a
short amount of time during which her attraction may peak and lessen.
Despite your best efforts, this happens all too often. To keep her
attraction on a steadily growing course, you’ll get out when things are
going well for you. Let her attraction level increase without you being
there. This works. Attraction includes a big percentage of fantasy and
you should use this to your advantage by not being there after you have
her phone number. Have I repeated myself enough times yet? Do you get
it? Get her phone number or email address and get out..
2. Call her or send an email no sooner than 3 days
and no more than 6 days after you met. Keep it casual, with an invite
to a regular type of meeting: a quick coffee, a shared trip running
errands, something that keeps the door open for a quick exit and has a
set time limit before the ‘date’ ends. Keep in mind that this is not
really a date, it is a ‘meet’.
3. Considering that all went well during your meet,
your next call should be after 2 days. This should take you to the next
Monday, and should give her enough time not only to decide that she
wants to continue seeing you, but for her attraction level to increase
even more. You will continue with the short dates, going out for
coffee, running errands, maybe even window shopping. You won’t do the
dinner date yet and you most certainly won’t take her to a bar or night
club. Face it, you don’t want to get under the influence (of any drink
or drug) and lose the carefully crafted control and attraction level
that you’ve worked so hard to attain. Keep in mind that while working
up to this point, sex is a no-no, and anything that goes beyond the
‘Kiss Test’ really shouldn’t be attempted.
4. At this stage you should be coming up to the third
weekend since you’ve met. And be past the third or fourth ‘meet’. Now
that you know more about the girl and she knows more about you, weekend
dates are the next step. Depending on the signals you’ve received, you
can move the relationship to a more intimate level, an understanding of
exclusivity during this phase of your dating with the rules of your
relationship evolving as you both continue to date.
Following these guidelines will help increase your score factor while
dating, keep attraction levels high in the women you meet and raise
your own self-confidence. You don’t need to be a player to be an active
dating male that women find interesting. And you don’t need to be a
buff chiseled featured man to get noticed.
For more information about the ‘Kiss Test’, ideas and advice for your
first few dates and even great tried-and-true tips for making that
first impression, visit www.DatingInsights.com
© 2005 Robert Lee and DatingInsights.com; Robert Lee lost a lot of girlfriends before realizing that the problem was himself and how he approached women. Now he doesn’t have those problems and shares his Dating Insights with you at www.DatingInsights.com.
About the author
TheReachOnline.com's head editor has branched into the advice area. He's
prepared to offer opinions and advice for your personal, relationship and
lifestyle conundrums. While he is not a professional councilor, Rob has been
around the block and does like to share from his vast experiences.
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